Should I stay or leave?

2021.09.19 01:47 serenadethequeen Should I stay or leave?

I started seeing a guy [29] mid last year, been together for 1.5 years. He always proclaimed he hated social media. 2 months ago I saw him on Instagram while we were in bed together and he thought I was asleep. But out of the corner of my eye, I noticed all these girls in bikinis and saw him sending them DMs, couldn't see exactly what the messages said. Anyway, I didn't say anything because I wanted to know for sure before I jumped to any conclusions. I waited till he was fast asleep, then went through his phone to find out he had 4 Instagram accounts: 3 of which he used to message these bikini Instagram influencers. The messages were all along the lines of how hot they were and if they would like to make some money. Most of them never messaged him back but the occasional one would reply back and name their price to which he would pay and they would send a photo or video in exchange. Once I had hard evidence, I woke him up, and told him to pack his things and leave my house. FYI I live alone and he stays over at mine almost every night. He was in tears, said he was sorry and that it was a bad habit he had acquired and he'd been doing it for 6-7 years. He said it was wrong and he shouldn't have been doing it. Backstory is I used to work in the adult entertainment industry on weekends in addition to my office job prior to meeting him but due to covid lockdown, the industry shut so at the time we met, I was just working my office job. I was open and honest with him about my past because I didn't want it to come up in conversation and be a surprise and if he accepted that about me, then we could be happy together. Once things lockdown lifted for a brief 6 months, I had an opportunity to go back to the industry; and I was tempted because of the money; but I chose not to because he had said previously that it would make him feel uncomfortable. He never tried to control me and never told me not to go back. He even said that he didn't want me to put my life on hold for him if that's what I wanted to do. He was always very understanding and never treated me differently after I told him which made me even more attracted to him and why I decided not to go back in the end. He persued me for a very long time. I certainly did not make it easy for him but he showered me with flowers, gifts, notes, spoilt me on my birthday taking me to fancy restaurants, cocktail bars, and a beautiful hotel. He always and still does cute little things to make me smile. Pour me a glass of wine, write cute messages and notes, watches educational videos on how to cook and make cocktails so he can make me dinner and drinks (he has never ever cooked prior to meeting me before in his life), gives me foot, back rubs and massages, etc. When I finally gave in and said yes let's be together, we were both very happy. He always made me feel special. But then finding this out has made things very difficult. I have lost all trust as it just makes me wonder what else he's hiding. He assured me that this was the extent of it and he's never changed the password on his phone the whole time I've known him. He leaves his phone near me whenever he comes over signalling to me that if I want to go through it I can. But I just don't believe him. And even though it's not physical cheating, I just feel like if he can do this online with random strangers then he can also do it with people he knows which could then lead to this happening in real life down the track. I told him that it wasn't the act of messaging these girls that was the issue, the issue was that I opened up to him about my past and sacrificed the weekend adult entertainment job and the extra coin I enjoyed because I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable; yet he couldn't give this one habit up for me and lied about having social media accounts the whole time saying how much he hated them. I really want to move past this and give this relationship another try but I don't know. I keep fixating on what has happened. Should I break up with him or should I give him another chance? And if I do give him another chance, how do I stop fixating on the negative past and my distrust towards what has happened? What steps do I need to implement in order to learn to trust him again and/or hold him accountable so it doesn't happen again in the future?
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Hello, I ran into a little bit of problem today, and would appreciate it if someone could help me out. On the Dal website, the information regarding whether or not a preparatory course is required for the Integrated Science course is rather contradictory, with some pages indicating it is mandatory, and others not mentioning it.
Could anyone knowledgeable about the program tell me whether or not a preparatory course is actually required in order to be accepted into the course? Thanks in advance!
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2021.09.19 01:47 AKArein goodnight

I'll try
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